Hi, I’m Lane Crall, a Certified Divorce Coach®.
As your Certified Divorce Coach®, I am your advocate through the divorce process to help prepare and protect you from the many pitfalls of divorce. I specialize in working with moms emerging from long term marriages to help rediscover who you are, define the future you want, and design your next chapter to achieve empowerment, fulfillment, happiness, and peace of mind.
Divorce does indeed give you the unique opportunity to change course and build a life you love! You CAN take back control of your life and discover the new life that awaits you!
But you don’t have to do this alone. Let me help you get there. Why?
Because I’ve been there and I know what it takes to get to the other side.
I have a passion and history of serving women, encouraging and empowering women like you to build their confidence and rediscover their self worth.
My Masters degree and corporate experience in Human Resources Management has built a strong foundation of communication, coaching, and training & development.
I am Board certified as a Certified Divorce Coach® and Certified Divorce Transition & Recovery Coach®.
About LANE
Contact Me: lane@nowandthencoaching.com
My Divorce Journey
Post-divorce, my identity changed. My social circles changed, and my financial situation changed. My family unit was broken, and I worried about the kids’ resilience. I felt broken and lost. My old life was gone, but my new life hadn’t really started. How would I ever find my way now? You see, after the settlement agreement was signed, the real work began. I had to work on myself—rebuilding myself block by block, cell by cell, to rediscover who I was and who I want to be. I was so accustomed to putting myself last in my family that I had forgotten my own desires, wants, and needs. I did plenty of soul-searching, introspective work—complete with journaling, meditation, traveling, and lots of beach walks in order to recalibrate and reboot. There is no substitute for doing the hard work to move out of the grief and darkness and into the light again. You just have to do it. But the payoff is huge: an opportunity to reinvent myself and create a life that I absolutely love. And I want YOU to experience the hope and joy I find everyday in my new chapter of life.
Today, I am not only at peace with my divorce, but I’m also grateful for my experiences along the way. I want to share my experiences with other women so their road traveled may be a little less bumpy than mine…
So what did I learn?
I needed a divorce coach, someone to hold my hand, be my advocate, and recommend external resources as I navigated the divorce process. On non-legal issues, I stumbled through on my own, figuring out resources and spending an enormous amount of time on self-help books and confiding in friends. Yes, sometimes your BFF is the right shoulder to cry on and share a glass of wine with, but that doesn’t help you move beyond your drama. It keeps you spiraling in the same spot, unable to channel that energy into a positive focus. So get your thinking partner, someone to truly shift your perspective!
My divorce was a chance to embrace change and build a new life that I love! It was the catalyst to design the future I want in order to emerge as a stronger, more powerful woman. Reframing my divorce story enabled me to move forward in responding to the world and the new opportunities available. I heard my ‘calling’ for my new career and discovered my Purpose.
I am more comfortable with the uncertainty of life and the presence of F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real). I understand how to make fact-based decisions instead of assumptions based on false evidence. I know my fears and learn how to recognize them; I intentionally respond instead of react. I am conscious of not letting anger influence my actions and know that forgiveness frees you from anger and toxicity that would be limiting in your new life.
I make it a priority to practice self-love and self-care. I am more self-accepting and give myself grace, especially when I fall short of my own expectations. I have emerged as a more resilient and independent woman who simply needed to be reminded of these qualities that were buried deep within me.
I gained wisdom on the attributes I prioritize in a partner, revealing what I cherish in a relationship: passion, humor, adventure, generosity, respect, and kindness. I also learned what things I can do better, such as appreciation and gratefulness. By recalibrating your ‘picker’ in a new relationship and fine-tuning your filters, you can receive what you seek.
Let me help you discover the key learnings from YOUR divorce story and explore the joy and peace that comes with clarity and a new sense of purpose.